Fandom, writing, and a life slightly out of control.

 

sukkanen:

client and server players should always help each other out especially in the name of FASHION

sukkanen:

client and server players should always help each other out especially in the name of FASHION

alliartist:

I have wanted to make an animated illustration since, about, a million years ago. 
Hey, wow, this is my 7,777th post.
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Done in Manga Studio 5 & Photoshop CS3
Took so many hours. 

alliartist:

I have wanted to make an animated illustration since, about, a million years ago. 

Hey, wow, this is my 7,777th post.

Done in Manga Studio 5 & Photoshop CS3

Took so many hours. 

I do think that it’s important to address our societal phobia of sadness, grief, and pain. But the way to do that is not to throw the mentally ill under the bus by implying they are running from their negative emotions when they seek out treatment. It also doesn’t mean casting shade on the few tools for treatment of mental illness that we actually have evidence are effective. A diagnosis of depression does not say “this person is too sad”. It says “this person can’t function the way they would like to because their emotions are consistently out of control”. There is a world of difference between those two statements.

Skepchick | Treating Depression Is Not Making Sadness A Disease

I maintain that anyone who claims that we’re “medicalizing sadness” STILL doesn’t actually understand what depression is, or what treatment is meant to do. Depression is not sadness and treatment is not meant to “make” anyone happy.

(via ineloquent-tumbling)

watchtheskytonight:

little-bit-fancy:

Today I came across a wi-fi connection called ‘Hogwarts’
I decided I would hack my first wi-fi
I put in ‘alohomora’ 
It worked 

bless you

(Source: johngreenisokay)

A post for men about creepy men

realsocialskills:

I wrote a post a while back about how some people are very good at getting away with doing intentionally creepy things by passing themselves off as just ~awkward~.

Recently, I noticed a particular pattern that plays out. While creeps can be any gender, there’s a gendered pattern by which creepy men get other men to help them be creepy:

  • A guy runs over the boundaries of women constantly
  • He makes them very uncomfortable and creeped out
  • But he doesn’t do that to guys, and
  • He doesn’t talk to guys about it in an unambiguous way, and
  • When he does it in front of guys, he finds a way to make it look deniable
  • And then some women complain to a man, maybe even a man in charge who is supposed to be responsible for preventing abuse in a space
  • and he has no idea what they are talking about, since he’s never the target or witness
  • And he’s had a lot of pleasant interactions with that guy
  • So he sympathizes with him, and thinks he must mean well but be have trouble with social skills
  • And then takes no action to get him to stop or to protect women
  • And so the group stays a place that is safe for predatory men, but not for the women they target

For example:

  • Mary, Jill, and Susan: Bill, Bob’s been making all of us really uncomfortable. He’s been sitting way too close, making innuendo after everything we say, and making excuses to touch us.
  • Bill: Wow, I’m surprised to hear that. Bob’s a nice guy, but he’s a little awkward. I’m sure he doesn’t mean anything by it. I’m not comfortable accusing him of something so serious from my position of authority.

What went wrong here?

  • Bill assumed that, if Bob was actually doing something wrong, he would have noticed.
  • Bill didn’t think he needed to listen to the women who were telling him about Bob’s creepy actions. He didn’t take seriously the possibility that they were right. 
  • Bill assumed that women who were uncomfortable with Bob must be at fault; that they must be judging him too harshly or not understanding his awkwardness
  • Bill told women that he didn’t think that several women complaining about a guy was sufficient reason to think something was wrong
  • Bill assumed that innocently awkward men should not be confronted about inadvertantly creepy things they do, but rather women should shut up and let them be creepy

A rule of thumb for men:

  • If several women come to you saying that a man is being creepy towards them, assume that they are seeing something you aren’t
  • Listen to them about what they tell you
  • If you like the guy and have no idea what they’re talking about, that means that what he is doing is *not* innocent awkwardness.
  • If it was innocent awkwardness, he wouldn’t know how to hide it from other men
  • Men who are actually just awkward and bad at understanding boundaries also make *other men* uncomfortable
  • If a man is only making women uncomfortable but not men, that probably means he’s doing it on purpose
  • Take that possibility seriously, and listen to what women tell you about men

tl;dr If you are a man, other men in your circle who are nice to you are creepy towards women. Don’t assume that if something was wrong that you would have noticed; creepy men are good at finding the lines of what other men will tolerate. Listen to women. They know better than you do whether a man is being creepy and threatening towards women; if they think something is wrong, listen and find out why. Don’t tolerate give predatory dudes who are nice to you cover to keep hurting women.

swordofomens:

davidv95:

BUGS BUNNY

YOU HAVE

NO RIGHT

TO MAKE THAT FACE

Bug is not casting aspersions on drag, he’s judging Daffy for the shoes not matching his eye shadow.

(Source: not-a-comedian)

numb3r5ev3n asked
I accidentally unfollowed and refollowed you. Sorry, hope I did not freak you out.

I figured it was a tumblr bug. :)

ehnoshima:

Once ur a homestuck it sticks with u it never goes away like ur gonna be 35 and settled down with a spouse and 2 kids or a pet and the clocks gonna say 4:13 and ur gonna be like fuck

hate to break this to you but some of us are already in our 30s. You will never escape.

cyphercat:

roachpatrol:


"Meulin, don’t be mean."
"He likes it!"
"Mituna, do you like it?"
"I AM THE PRETTIEST PRINCESS, SIR."
"Okay, carry on, then. Go team."
"GO TEAM, PEASANT SCUM."

(happy birthday, cyphercat!)

OH MY GOD

cyphercat:

roachpatrol:

"Meulin, don’t be mean."

"He likes it!"

"Mituna, do you like it?"

"I AM THE PRETTIEST PRINCESS, SIR."

"Okay, carry on, then. Go team."

"GO TEAM, PEASANT SCUM."

(happy birthday, cyphercat!)

OH MY GOD

bitterherbs:

huntingwithkatnissandwinchesters:

disneyprincest:

i hate when you voluntarily tell your parents some information about your life because you think you can trust them and then they bitch at you for it like congrats you have guaranteed that i will never tell you anything ever again 

and then you do it again because deep in your heart you hope they may change because you’re their child but they keep doing that over and over again 

This.